“Not Tommy”: Smart and Safe, Part 2

Read “Not Tommy”: Smart and Safe, Part 1

Katie was visiting Tommy at least once a day most days. Maggie and Katie’s dad worried a little, but didn’t want Katie to worry. After all, this was her first time having her own place away from her parents. Maggie and Jim, Katie’s dad, were also enjoying the time with Katie’s younger siblings. Everyone was breathing a little easier, having some space from each other.

One evening, Katie called, sounding upset. “Mom, he insulted me so much. I mean, he was trying to get me to stay in his apartment when I decided I better leave. He was kissing me and touching me on my bottom and on my breasts and saying silly things.”

“Who?” asked Maggie.

It was Tommy. He’d been drinking, and with his self-control impaired, he decided to try to take advantage of Katie’s somewhat diminished capacity to make decisions. But, when she tried to leave, he hugged her to make her stay. She was determined to leave, and he insulted her by trying to make her stay, Katie said later.

Maggie went over to Katie’s apartment and talked it all out. Maggie knew that whatever else had happened, Tommy had committed assault when he tried to keep her from leaving against her will.

“I even went back up there after I called you, Mom, just to yell at him and tell him he couldn’t do stuff like that and that he insulted me.”

By now, Katie had told her mom a lot of details, and Katie’s mom had called Katie’s dad to tell him the details. They all agreed that Maggie would stay over at Katie’s place, just in case. In the morning, Katie told her story to the management of the apartment complex, who called the police.

Katie was very open with the police officer, who was quite respectful to her. This surprised Maggie, because Katie is naive and seems younger than her 26 years. Still, the officer treated her like an adult. Maggie had a chance to thank him later.

The case was turned over to the prosecutor’s office, who decided not to press charges. Of course, Tommy had his own version of the events.

Grown-up kids have grown-up problems. No parent would wish this situation on a young adult child, but Maggie was reassured that Katie could manage herself in a tight situation, could recognize when it was time to get out, and could communicate clearly when asked to relate what happened. This was just about the best thing Maggie could ask for…no one can protect their kids from every problem, but all parents can help kids learn to speak up for themselves and take charge to leave a bad situation.

How can I explore a career if I can’t go to the place where people work?

Here’s a link to Exploring Careers Virtually, a presentation that is full of resources and connections for young adults with disabilities and their families. It came from Youth Career Connect, a project of the US Department of Labor. It covers the topics listed below:

  • How to connect students to the workplace virtually to learn about careers.
  • How to navigate the CareerOneStop, Get My Future portal (structure and uses).
  • Other platforms (free platforms; state-focused platforms; subscription sites)

What do you think? How can a young person explore a career like lab science, or office management, or welding, without going into the place where that job happens? Tell us about it.

 

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Paths to Employment Webinar

Check out another great webinar from the PACER Center…and while you’re at it, how about forwarding this to someone else?

Paths to Employment: Exploring the Options

Date: Thursday, June 21, 2018
Time: 6:30 PM – 8:30 PM
A panel of representatives from Minnesota’s Special Education, Career and Technical Education, Vocational Rehabilitation, and WorkForce Center systems will share information to help youth with disabilities get started on a career path, ways the programs work together, and how youth can access these services. Information will primarily address options available to in-school youth, but some information about programs for out-of-school youth will also be presented.
Live:Web Streaming Availible

Try some online tools to explore careers

Free Career Test Online – CareerFitter.com

60 question free career test uncovers the scientific summary of your work personality. Generates a detailed full version option with lists of careers and jobs plus.colored pencil points

Mapping Your Future: Explore careers

Mapping Your Future is a nonprofit organization committed to helping students, families, and schools navigate the higher education and student loan processes through trusted career, college, and financial aid counseling and resources.

Explore Careers – Job Opportunities for College Graduates – BigFuture

A well-crafted résumé can help you land a job, an internship or a volunteer position. Learn what to include on a résumé and start working on yours. Start slide show. Major and Career Search. Major and Career Search. Wondering how can you pursue your interests in college and beyond? Search by keyword or browse by …

Explore Careers | GetMyFuture | CareerOneStop

Find a career that’s right for you! Taking the time to identify your interests and skills will help you be successful and happy in your work.

Home | explorehealthcareers.org

Student health careers information and interactive tools for exploring health career paths, and finding schooling and funding opportunities.

Indiana Career Explorer

A career planning system for all Hoosiers! Sign in to explore jobs in demand, assess your skills, and develop a plan to get the education and training you need to begin planning for your future today. Indiana Career Explorer will help you explore a world of career possibilities, make decisions about your future, and prepare …

Michigan Education & Career Pathfinder

Explore Career Options | CAMW – Capital Area Michigan Works!

employment tool kit.pdf – Autism Speaks

Jan 7, 2013 – Looking for a job can be a long process. It is important to focus on the positive steps to gaining employment such as networking and meeting new people, learning about your strengths, learning new skills and exploring careers. Choose a team to help you with your job search that includes the people that …

Vocational Assessment and Its Role in Career Planning | NCWD/Youth

http://www.ncwd-youth.info › Publications by Topic › Workforce Development

The use of aptitude assessment isolated from other vocational assessment information tends to screen out youth with significant disabilities. However, aptitude tests may be helpful when used as tools to identify customized job training, supports, or accommodations that may be needed by an individual to succeed in an …

QuickBook Of Transition Assessments – OCALI

assistance in finding and keeping a job, tools and supplies needed to reach goals, vocational training, post-secondary preparation, assistive technology, and more. ____ Social Security Administration. Manages two different disability programs – SSDI and SSI. Both programs provide a monthly income for people with …

Person Centered Assessment Tools :: Center for Development and …

cdd.unm.edu › CDD › Partners for Employment › Topics A to Z

My Star (ARCA); Positive Personal Profile; PATH (Planning Alternative Tomorrows with Hope); Person-Centered Assessment tool; Vocational Assessment Profiles … or discovery component, meaning that individuals with developmental disabilities experience community activities as a component of the assessment process.

Free Career Test Online – CareerFitter.com

60 question free career test uncovers the scientific summary of your work personality. Generates a detailed full version option with lists of careers and jobs plus.

Mechanical: working with tools and equipment. Communication: listening, speaking and working with others. Judgment: making clear, decisive decisions. Attention: focus on the problem at hand. Thinking: working with new ideas and creative thinking. Physical: strength, agility and dexterity. Senses: eyesight and hearing …